Be Assertive Learning Review
In English we have been recently learning about communicating assertively we have been choosing a topic to have a discussion on and we have to talk assertive. This post is a review for our assessment.
- What are the four types of behavioural responses, and what does each mean (in your own words)? Indirect is when you get someone else to speak for you to state your point. Aggressive is when you start to talk with a high volume voice and you can be rude and start attacking the other person your talking to. Passive is when you are calm and you are sort of laying back and not saying anything. Assertive is the most appropriate way to communicate, because you don't have a tone and you are addressing the situation properly.
- What is the definition of Assertive Communication?
The definition is speaking your point with no tone and using the correct punctuation when getting your point across.
- What are the three ‘describes’? When should you use them?
The three describes are Situation, Feelings and Changes. You should use each of theses when you are being Assertive.
- List and explain 5 of the ‘Assertive Communication Tools’. Think of your own example for each.
Thank them- Thank the other person for their input in what they are saying.
Be positive- Remain positive even if its in a tricky situation.
Ask for their help- Ask for their help if you are stuck and don't know what to do.
Focus- Stay on task and talk about the situation not other things.
Go for agreement- Always come to an agreement at the end of the talk.
- List and explain in your own words 3 barriers to assertive communication.
Gender is barrier because many men can find it easy talking to another male and getting along with them, but when it comes to a woman they might find it harder.
Age is a barrier because people still believe elders should be more valued than the youth, because they are wiser and have been around longer.
Culture is a barrier because the language might be different when trying to talk to each other and because it confuses when they might be a different religion.
- What does assertive communication look like?
Assertive communication looks like eye contact and having the appropriate body language when you are talking to someone else.
- What does assertive communication sound like?
It sounds like calm voices and using the appropriate tone of voice when you are talking to other people.
- What does it mean to act like a scratched record when it comes to your boundaries?
Always saying no and repeating yourself to make sure the other person gets the point across.
- Think back to a time when you or a friend used a behavioural response that was not assertive. What type was it? What did you say? What happened as a result? What could you have done differently?I was passive and yelled at them when they were talking to me because i thought they were
quite rude and didn't show any respect to me. As a result of this I walked away
and didn't talk the again. Next time I could be assertive when talking to them.
- Reflect on your behavioural responses until now. How do you usually respond to tricky situations? Do you want to change the way you respond, moving forward? What will you try to remember in the future when difficult situations arise?Now with tricky situations I respond assertively all of the time or at least most of the time. I would
not change the way I respond because I already changed and its quite good. In the future I can remember to consider other people feelings though.
